Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman. Proverbs 21:19
Has your husband mentioned this verse to you one or two times? According to dictionary.com 'contentious' means "tending to argument or strife; quarrelsome." According to husbands it means "to nag". This verse, along with a few others in Proverbs, is pretty self-explanatory. To be a woman a virtue, we do not need to nag, argue, or fuss.
A woman of virtue is strong in the midst of crisis, and arguing does not portray a woman who is strong. Maybe your husband leaves all his dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the dirty clothes hamper. Maybe your children left their schoolwork strewn over the kitchen table, leaving you to put it away when it's time to eat a meal. Are these things really worth arguing over? No. Nagging doesn't help a problem; it can only make it worse.
Next time you feel like arguing with your husband because he didn't put his clothes in the dirty clothes hamper try this: close your eyes, take a deep breath, blow out all your frustration, and say a small prayer. "Lord, please help me be strong." Think of things that you appreciate about your husband, and then tell him those things. Also, explain to him why you want him to put his clothes in the hamper and how that would help you out.
Arguing is not worth the risk of losing your family. Would you rather them live with you or out in the wilderness?
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