31 Days of Virtue: Day 2

Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper as his complement." 
Genesis 2:18


Who are we? We are helpers to our husbands. We are their partners; we are their spouses. We are not to be demanding, controlling, or superior. 


Why is it sometimes so hard for us to be helpers? I believe it is part of our punishment. After Adam and Eve ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, God punished them. God told Eve, "I will intensify your labor pains; you will bear children in anguish. Your desire will be for your husband, yet he will rule over you." He will rule over you. That's what we have problems with sometimes. We want to be equal; we want both of us to 'rule' our households. But we cannot. Our husbands should be the leaders in our homes. We are to help. 


We try to bring back the garden of Eden, the place where we think everything was perfect and right. But we forget one thing. Temptation was there in that garden in the form of a serpent. Temptation has always been in this world, and when Eve took that bite of fruit, sin was born. Yes, she could have said no. Yes, Adam could have stopped her; but neither of those things happened. You know, I hear people debate who was in the wrong that day in the garden, usually men vs. women. 


"Eve, the woman, took that first bite."


"Adam should have been man enough to stand up and say no."


"Eve knew what she was doing was wrong. She knew God said not to eat from that tree."


"Eve had not even been created when God told Adam not to eat from the tree."


Does it really matter? Eve ate the fruit. Adam ate the fruit. They sinned, and now we have to live with the punishment. To put it bluntly, we need to deal with it and move on. Whose fault it is, is not the problem. We ignore the issue when we argue about that. We were created to be helpers to our husbands, not leaders of our homes. Let your husbands take care of that role. We cannot undo what Eve and Adam has done. 


So how do we help our husbands? We encourage them; we pray for them; we care for them. We talk to them, and sometimes we don't talk. When issues arise that need to be dealt with, which they will, we handle them with our husbands. We let our thoughts be known about the situation respectfully.


Will it be hard? Of course. We want that 'paradise' of Eden back, but we cannot have it. Perhaps admitting to ourselves that we are not the leaders of our homes and allowing our husbands to fill that role will be the first step in being a helper, a partner, a spouse.

31 Days of Virtue: Day 1

  I love being a wife! I love everything about it! I like the cleaning, the cooking, the washing clothes and dishes, and I love my husband! Yes, we do have rough times like any other marriage, but we always get through them. Because one of my desires is to be the wife God wants me to be, I have decided to study more deeply what that means - to be the wife God wants me to be. And what that means, I believe, is to be the woman God wants me to be - to be a woman like the woman of Proverbs 31.

  The woman of Proverbs 31 is a virtuous woman. According to dictionary.com, the definition of virtue is moral excellence; goodness; righteousness. These characteristics are what I will be studying more about over the next 31 days. These characteristics are what I am striving for in my own life. Here are just a few things I will be writing about for the next month:
- Being a helper (Genesis 2:18)
- Being sensible (Proverbs 19:14)
- Fear the LORD (Proverbs 31:30)
- Be submissive (Ephesians 5:22)
- Be reverent (Titus 2:3)
- Be pure (Titus 2:5)

  I hope you will join me on this journey of discovering what God has called us to be as women and wives. It is sure to be eye-opening! To find out what other bloggers will be writing about for the month of October, visit my 31 Days page. You can visit each of their sites from there.

  Enjoy!

A Virtuous Woman: 31 Days Project

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10


Who is a virtuous woman? A virtuous woman is someone who is good, righteous, worthy, faithful, honorable, moral, upright, and honest.


I would like to explore the Word of God for 31 days beginning October 1st and find this virtuous woman. I want to be this virtuous woman, but not for myself. I want to be this virtuous woman to glorify my God. I want to be this virtuous woman as a gift to my husband. I love being a wife. One of my deepest desires is to be the wife God wants me to be for my husband. But how can I know what kind of wife that is, how can I know who a virtuous woman is and what her characteristics comprise of unless I study and search for her?


I hope you will join me on this search. Married or not, all women can benefit from knowing who a virtuous woman is and taking her characteristics as our own. If you would like to place this badge on your blog or website to help spread the word, you are more than welcome to it!

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