Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Am I a Prude?

Here are a few things I found on
"noun: a person who is excessively proper or modest in speech, conduct, dress, etc.

Origin: 1695-1705; French prude a prude (noun), prudish (adj.), short for prudefemme, Old French prodefeme worthy or respectable woman.

World English Dictionary
- n - a person who affects or shows an excessively modest, prim, or proper attitude, esp. regarding sex

Word Origin & History
1704, from Fr. prude "excessively prim or demure woman" (also an adj.), first recorded in Moliere, from O. Fr. preude "good, virtuous, modest," perhaps an ellipsis of preudefemme "a discreet, modest woman," from O. Fr. prou de femme, fem. equivalent of prud-homme "a brave man" (see proud). First record of prudish is from 1717. Prudery first recorded 1709."

And here's a bit more I found from Wikipedia:

"prude (Old French prude meaning honourable woman)[1] is a person who is described as (or would describe themselves as) being concerned with decorum or propriety, significantly in excess of normal prevailing community standards. They may be perceived as being more uncomfortable than most with sexualitynudityalcoholdrug use or mischief.
The name is generally considered to suggest excessive modesty, and is hence unflattering, often used as an insult by people who do not share the moral standards of the "prude". A person who is considered a prude may have reservations about nudity, participating in romantic or sexual activity, drinking alcohol or consuming other drugs, or participating in mischief. These reservations usually stem from, or are at least justified by, moral beliefs. Actions or beliefs that may cause someone to be labeled a prude include advocating or practicing abstinence, advocating prohibition, advocating censorship of sexuality or nudity in the media, disapproval of being nude in public, avoiding or condemning public display of affection, or exhibiting unusual levels of discomfort with sexuality, alcohol, drugs or mischief.
The term is generally used in a relative sense. For example, one may be viewed as having relatively liberal standards regarding sexuality and drug usage compared to the overall population in which one resides, but compared to a smaller, specific subculture, one may appear to be unduly conservative and thus be labeled a prude because one refuses to participate in more illicit behaviors.
In historical contrast, the word prude was originally a noble compliment. Traditionally, it was usually associated with wisdom, integrity, usefulness, and profit. Even in present day language, it forms the root of the word prudence, meaning "sound judgement in practical affairs". "

So am I a prude? Yes. Is there anything wrong with being a prude? Not at all. Why am I having mixed feelings about being called a prude? Because I'm pretty certain that the person who called me this did not mean it as a compliment. Even though technically being a prude is a good thing, who wants to be insulted? 
Yes, I am modest. 
Yes, I am conservative.
Yes, I disapprove of being nude in public.
Yes, I am uncomfortable being around people who drink excessive amounts of alcohol. 

Just because I have different beliefs and values than you doesn't mean I enjoy being insulted, even if you are using a word that technically should be a compliment. I am not pushing these beliefs on you. Why insult me or make fun of me because of my beliefs? 

Anywho... that's just what's been on my mind this morning. What do you think? Are you a prude as well? 

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